Dry Humping and the Virgin’s Guide to Orgasms

Well, here we go down the new road of young lovers.

When you’re a teenager who’s just started to explore your sexuality, the world can be a titillating place.

Every kiss excites something, and every lingering touch stimulates something else.

It’s a tough world, being in a new relationship, having to behave like you know everything about sex already, and having to be ready for everything sex has to offer to you and your body.

There’s always something new to experience, and there’s always one step more to take towards better orgasms. So there really shouldn’t be any pressure on you to try it all at once!

If you haven’t had sex yet, either because you’re not ready or because you don’t intend to have sex until you’ve met the right person who you can spend your life with, well, good for you.

You have nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, you need to be proud of your will power and your achievement because you’ve shown that you have the resolve and the emotional maturity that is well ahead of your friends who can’t wait to lose it with someone.

This feature is specifically for our younger readers who haven’t had sex yet, and are looking at other ways to keep the sexual excitement alive in their relationship.

You may think having sex at a young age is all the rage, but any woman with a frisky teenage sexual experience to brag about would tell you that sex is always better when you’ve reached consensual age and you’ve met someone you truly like.

Well, by definition, dry humping is nothing but dry sex. It’s a kind of non penetrative sex or outercourse, where your partner and you graze each other’s privates against each other, but with your clothes on.

You can feel each other down there, but you can’t see it or directly touch each other’s privates. And it’s probably called dry sex because you don’t exchange body fluids with each other.

Dry sex definitely feels good, as the friction and pressure you feel on your labia and clitoris could stimulate you and make you feel sexually excited. Your boyfriend too may enjoy his erection more because of the pressure he feels against his member. To understand it better, think of it as grinding your butt at a guy when you’re dancing at a pervy party.

I enjoy sex, I really do. I love everything about it. And yet, I need to say this, sex is completely overrated!

It’s not such a big deal as people make it out to be. There’s a stage for everything in life, and each experience is just as special. When you’re young, your first kiss is the defining moment of your life. And then, going to first base becomes the biggest defining moment of your life. And then comes second base, followed by several other sexual experiences as you grow older. And even when you do finally have sex, within a few months after having it for the first time, you’d want something more out of it!

Do you remember your first kiss or the first time you made out with your lover? Just the act of kissing or getting your breasts fondled left you hard and sliding off the slippery chair. But after you do it a few times, the excitement doesn’t stay the same, does it?

It’s the same with sex, and that’s why there’s really no hurry to rush into it. If you do end up having sex at a younger age, there aren’t too many other things to explore sexually later in your life. Enjoy your exciting sexuality, one little step at a time, so you don’t forget your first kiss or the first time you made out. After all, the bad thing about penetration sex is that it always has a way of making you forget everything else you’ve done sexually!

Without sounding like a total prude, I’d like to give you a piece of advice. Save your virginity for as long as you comfortably can. You’ll get to enjoy the other things a lot more by doing that!

If you’re 18 and still don’t feel ready for sex, don’t have sex. You don’t have to give in to peer pressure or do it just because everyone else is doing it. You’ll just regret it later.

Most teenagers can’t wait to grow up, and in their haste to become adults, they lose their youthful innocence far too soon. If you’re a teenager who wants to be an adult early in life, you need to understand that you may lose your childhood over your pursuit of experiencing your sexuality.

Remember, once you lose your youthful teenage years, you’ll never get it back. Value your innocence. It’s the best part of being young. And really, you do realize that you have your whole life ahead of you to have sex with whomever you want, don’t you?!

Even if you’re in a relationship with a really great guy who says that he loves you, don’t jump into bed with him right away. Build intimacy first, and try to get to know each other better.

There is an easy way to understand if you and your lover are emotionally connected. If you’re uncomfortable talking about something sexual with your boyfriend, then you’re definitely not intimate yet. If you and your boyfriend really do love each other, both of you must feel really comfortable to talk about anything at all, don’t you think?

Dry humping can be a lot of fun. It can give you a lot of orgasms, and it can also feel just as good as sex if you play it well.

To enjoy a good dry hump, you need privacy and a comfortable place to sit down or lie down. Beyond that, everyone has their own way of doing it. Here are a few great tips to dry hump your way to a sexy orgasm!

#1 Follow your instincts. When you lie down against each other, move your bodies against each other until the hips seem to move in sync with each other.

#2 The first time. If you’re dry humping for the first time or not really sure about how to do it, use a bed or a couch. Dry humping is all about the pelvic movements. The closer you place your private areas against each other while lying on top of each other, the more pleasurable it would feel.

#3 Use your hands. Just like regular sex, dry sex too isn’t all just about the action in between the pelvis. Use your hands and run them all over each other, kiss each other passionately, bite and nibble. Dry sex will definitely heighten the sensation of everything else you do to each other.

#4 Avoid getting completely naked. The temptation of slipping it in will ruin the moment. It’s not worth it. If you ever do plan to have sex, it should never be a spur of the moment decision. You and your partner need to discuss this calmly and rationally when you’re not clouded by sexual passion.

#5 Shorts are good. You get to feel a lot of skin against each other, and this can really feel sexy. And if you’re wearing soft cotton shorts while he’s in his jeans, you’d end up getting stimulated faster and enjoy a better orgasm.

#6 Vary the positions. You don’t need to indulge in the same motions the whole while. Both of you could end up feeling rather sore in a short while. Instead, shift your bodies now and then. You can press your pelvis against his leg now and then, and use your hands to stimulate his package too.

#7 The presence of mind. Don’t lose your presence of mind just because you’re horny and can’t think straight. If you see that his pants are wet, or if he tells you that he’s about to ejaculate, pull back. There’s always a small risk of pregnancy if body fluids come in contact with each other.

Dry sex doesn’t lead to pregnancies, it almost never does. For a very long time, it was always understood that penetration of the guy’s penis into a girl’s vagina is the only way for the girl to get pregnant. But a few rare medical cases have shown that it’s not always the case. Sometimes, exchange of body fluids can take place even without penetration and lead to pregnancy, though the chances of that happening are so slim that you’d probably be a medical case study if you end up pregnant.

Let’s go through the worst case scenario in simple terms to help you understand it better. During ovulation, an egg is released by your body into the fallopian tubes from your ovaries. The egg stays there until a sperm meets it. These fallopian tubes connect to your uterus, which is further connected to the vagina through a cervix. That’s a lot of length for a warrior sperm to travel, especially if the sperm isn’t deep inside you already.

If your boyfriend ejaculates his sperm, wets his shorts with his sperm, and still continues to have passionate dry sex with you, there’s a small chance that the sperm may travel on to your clothes and pass through your shorts and over the outer walls of your vagina. After that, if you go to the bathroom and wipe yourself rather deep using a tissue, there’s a very small chance that one of the sperms that were on your vaginal wall may be pushed into your vagina because of your tissue.

Realistically speaking, it needs a lot of coincidences for you to get pregnant by having dry sex with your clothes on.

Cautiously speaking, if the guy you’re dry humping has ejaculated his sperm and your shorts feel wet with his sperm, stop right there. Even though the vaginal passage is deep, and the chances are slim, you really don’t need to take a gamble there.

But just to be cautious and smart, be aware of how birth control works. And if you’re comfortable with the idea, confess to a friendly adult that you’re indulging in dry sex so they can advice you and be your pillar of support when something scares you.

A guy may not always be able to orgasm if he’s dry humping a girl. If your boyfriend complains of blue balls *his balls hurt because he wasn’t able to ejaculate after getting an erection*, let him finish himself off in the bathroom or in bed while fondling you with his hands. If he can masturbate when he’s alone at home, he definitely can do a better job while watching you in bed.

And most importantly, even if your boyfriend isn’t a virgin, don’t feel pressurized into doing more than just dry humping. Even if he whines about it, he’ll still enjoy it because getting sexually intimate with you is a whole new experience for him.

Think about it, if just passionately kissing you could give him an erection, don’t you think dry humping him will do so much more?

Dry humping is safe and a great way to explore your sexuality and build intimacy with your lover, without having to involve sexual penetration into the picture.

But here are a few things you can keep in mind to ensure that nothing goes wrong while having dry sex with your partner.

#1 Don’t get overly aggressive. Sometimes even something as regular as zippers or thick jeans can end up grazing your skin, leaving you with an uncomfortable burn or a painful wound.

#2 Positions. Change the pressure positions now and then, or when you feel the pressure getting painful. You’ll enjoy dry humping better.

#3 The wet sensation. You may feel wet down there, but it’s just your body’s way of preparing you for sex. It’s your body’s natural lubricant, and this lubricant will help avoid getting hurt by making you more slippery down there. As long as the guy is wearing his jeans, and he hasn’t ejaculated, you don’t need to panic about your own lubricant.

#4 Tears in the walls. The lubricant released by your body can help protect your vaginal walls, but you still need to play it gently. Extremely aggressive dry sex could leave your vaginal walls with tears which could end up bleeding.