Signs that a Man is in Love with You

Here at S.P.I.C.E, we take the pleasure of demystifying the Singaporean male to our female readers. In our observation, the SG man tends to use money and/or gifts to compensate for the lack of romantic smoothness compared to his ang moh counterpart. SG men are a practical bunch, they know very well that SG women are equally pragmatic – No Money, No Honey. The SG man also works very hard (and like it or not, work is likely his no. 1 priority), so he doesn’t have much bandwidth to be creative and plan fanciful surprises. He is fairly predictable when it comes to showing his object of affection that he is attracted to her. Of course, this is a gross generalisation, but we hope you will find these signs useful. Between the two of us, we have made countless of poor, unsuspecting men fall head over heels in love.

Here’s our own take on signs that a man is interested in being more than friends with you.

1) Element of Surprise

Men in love will go the extra mile for you. A man once enrolled in a cooking class just to learn and surprise me by cooking my favourite food. Another time, a guy that I was dating, text me on how much he enjoyed our date last night. He ended the text with a kiss emoticon. Just 30 minutes later, he asked me to come down to my office lobby to receive a real kiss. It was sweet, because he actually dropped whatever he was doing, and drove 20km, beating several red lights I bet, just to give me a sweet peck on the lips. Men who are less upfront, will surprise you by asking where you are now, and showing up there to bring you foodstuff like cupcakes or Starbucks/ Gong Cha or just offer to buy you a meal. Yes, as you can see, the SG men loves to pamper his women with FOOD! Asking you where you are is also a sign that he is interested, which leads me to the next point…

2) Keeping Tabs of Your Movement

Men like to be in control, and that includes knowing what his woman is doing now, what she is doing later, where is she and who is she with. Of course, this is usually disguised cleverly in texts like “Hey babe, at home?” or “What’s your plans later?” or for the act cool guy, “Whassup?” Guys do this also because they tend to be protective of their love interest, especially if she is gorgeous and he knows she’s being chased by 5 other men! In this case, ladies, you will find yourself at the service of a personal chauffeur. A man in love has no qualms with sending you to and fro from home and work even though he stays in Boon Lay and you stay in Tampines.

3) Staying Connected

Leaving Whatsapp msgs/ SMS/ Facebook comments are signs that he is definitely thinking of you (or that he is a stalker!!!) SG men are a busy bunch, so if they send you texts from “Good Morning Babe” to “How’s your day?” all the way to “Sweet Dreams”, you know you’ve got him eating out the palm of your hands. After a great date, there is also the MANDATORY text to check if you are safely home “I was really happy to see you again, Sweetie.” or “Missing you already”. You may think SG men are emotionless, but trust me, when it comes to communication online or thru’ texts, most end up saying the same things. These texts are their SOP and are easily templated.

4) No Money, No Honey syndrome

SG men are a generous bunch (or perhaps we have been lucky to be showered with so many gifts from the generous ones). The man in love will try to win the SG woman’s heart by bringing her shopping, impressing her with expensive dinner and musicals and bringing her on overseas holidays.

5) He Remembers Everything

This is the best trait that I really love and find so enduring about the SG men. When they are in love with you, they remember everything you say, everything about you, your birthday, your star sign, your likes, allergies, what you said when you first met, what your facial expressions mean, EVERYTHING. SG Men are one of the most attentive men around (before marriage, that is). If you are blessed to be married and still have a man who remembers details like that, he is a true keeper!

6) Touchy Feely

The best way to get out being stuck in the Friend Zone is to make your move on the woman. Men know this, and you can bet on the first date, he will take his opportunity to make physical contact such as touching your hand, either in public or while driving and other signs like touching the small of your back or your hair. If he is attracted to you, he will try to kiss you. That’s a positive sign. If the guy doesn’t even come close during a date, don’t bother waiting for his call, honey.

7) Friends and Family

A guy in love will want to introduce you to his friends first (seeking their endorsement) and for the serious relationships, let you meet their family, including their kids for the single parent.

8) Making Plans

If he is interested in you, he makes plans to spend time with you during upcoming holidays, not just meeting you last minute. If a guy is constantly arranging to meet up with you at short notice and only at time and places convenient to him, that shows a lack of courtesy and respect. He is only interested in sex.

9) Finding Mutual Interests

Somehow, all guys who are interested in me would tell me how much they enjoy exercise as well, knowing full well how much time I spend at the gym. SG Men are good at researching their lady’s likes and dislikes. If she is into animals, he will suddenly have the same interest. So lookout for such signs, they are not coincidences.

10) Biggest Fan and Cheerleader

You can count on a man in love to show you support. This doesn’t mean that he blindly pays lip service. There will be times when he will chide you or nag at you, because he truly cares for you. But you can count on him to listen, be there emotionally and supporting your dreams. If he constantly puts you down though and belittles your aspirations, dump him.