How to Talk to a Girl

Have you ever walked into a room and instantly found yourself smitten by a beauty standing across the room? Ever wondered how to talk to a girl you like at a time like this?

One of the biggest hurdles most guys face is making the first move. Chatting up a girl is easy if you’re going to be introduced to her.

But when you have to walk up to a girl you’ve never spoken to before, and want to start a conversation, your heart can beat faster than a hummingbird on heat.

Follow these ten steps one at a time, and before you know it, knowing how to talk to a girl you like will be a walk in the park.

You’re interested in talking to great girls. And just like you, girls are interested in talking to great guys too. So really, there’s nothing to be worried about here.

Remember the biggest rule when it comes to knowing how to talk to a girl. You can’t jump steps. Just like you have to learn to walk before you can run, you need to learn to warm her up before you talk to her. Read on.

Talking to a girl isn’t as simple as walking up to just about any girl and asking her out on a date. It may work in the movies, but in all probability, it won’t work in real life. A girl needs to know you’re interested in her so she can evaluate you.

If you just walk up to a girl who doesn’t have a hint that you’re approaching her, you may just end up shocking her. And she’s going to say the first thing her mum taught her to say to intruding boys. “Go away!”

Once she knows you exist, take the game a notch higher. Glance at her now and then to arouse her curiosity. Does she glance back at you now and then? Does she smile to herself when you catch her eye? Do her friends look at you and smile? Watch out for the happy signs.

There’s no point in trying to figure out how to talk to a girl if all she does is gives you a dirty stare or doesn’t care whether you’re looking at her. Asking a girl out in such cases usually ends up being a disaster and for a novice’s confidence, it’s best to be avoided.

Using a pick up line may be smart and cocky, but in most cases, pick up lines fail. The best way to figure out when and how to talk to a girl is to avoid pick up lines and use pick up circumstances instead!

If it’s a conference or a gallery and she walks up to a display, stand next to her and say something out of the blue like “do you know how long it took to make this?” or something just as casual. Likewise, whether it’s in the office, a park or even a bar, look around and ask her a question that’s relevant to something around her. But always remember to keep it vague. A vague question makes a girl wonder for a few seconds, she’s going to end up responding to you.

Now this works best just after you’ve spoken to her after asking her a really vague question. Once she answers it, both of you are in talking mode but not really friends. She would have answered your question and looked away. She obviously knows you’re hitting on her, so she won’t really try to continue the conversation. She may just smile and look away.

You can do one of two things, introduce yourself or continue to play the game and introduce yourself after asking her a few more questions. Prolonging the game can make it so much more exciting for both of you. But of course, she could just walk out of the conversation if she’s in a bar counter waiting for a drink. If you’re introducing yourself, go ahead and introduce yourself. And be frank, tell her you have a confession to make, that you’ve been waiting to meet her for a long time or all evening.

She obviously knows you’ve been staring at her, so why pretend like you’re picking her up. Telling her the truth may flatter her instead of making her feel like she’s being picked up.

When you’re talking to a girl, make sure she knows she can walk out whenever she wants. Don’t corner her in awkward places like outside the ladies room, or a quiet corridor. If you can handle it, you can even talk to a girl when she’s with her friends. Always remember, if she feels like she has the space, she’s going to be a lot more comfortable to talk to you.

But then again, this is tricky. If you give a girl enough space, you may not be able to build a connection and she may just end up walking away. But as long as you’ve got the first four steps right, she won’t really walk away.

After all, if you’ve warmed her up, she’s going to want to talk to you too! As long as you’ve used these first four steps on how to talk to a girl to the tee, you’ll be able to talk to a girl and impress her, without really making it appear like you’re trying to pick her up.