TUTORIAL 10: HOW TO GET LAID WITH A COUGAR IN TWO WEEKS OR LESS

So now, that you’ve read some information on this blog and have an idea of how to deal with older women, lets  get down to business and learn how to get laid in two weeks or less and then how to keep getting regular sex without too much effort.

One young guy (29 years old), whom I met through the CougarLife website, used this method literally and got another cougar, whom he also met via the CougarLife website, to sleep with him on the next day. The very next day. They are still shagging, it’s been 2 months. LOL. But he is a very smart cookie. Typically, guys would take 1-2 weeks. And you know what, I think it is more exciting for all parties when it takes just a little longer.

So we’ll start with where to meet cougars, how to get them to reply to you, how to handle the first date, then how to get a cougar to sleep with you within a week after the first date. Then, we’ll talk about how to tame your cougar and get her to keep you for a few months. It is not realistic to expect a longer term with a cougar, nor would you want it, I’d imagine.

1. The best place to meet cougars is online, I can tell you this as a cougar. CougarLife website is a very good site, never mind what you hear about it. I personally know of several boys who consistently meet new cougars and get laid regularly. You just need to do it right. So post a nice picture of yourself, without any girls on it, provide sufficient profile information to indicate that you are serious and not just poking around, and start searching.
3. Find the right cougar to approach. Hang out on the site for a day or two and see who logs in regularly. If you see a pretty face but not much profile information, you will be wasting your time. Find a woman who took care to describe herself and what she is looking for, posted a picture, and who logs in often. This will mean she is, indeed, looking to find a cub.
4. Do not think in stereotypes. A lot of people don’t know how to describe themselves and might say something silly, so be open minded. Read between the lines. Look for profiles that sound genuine.
5. Start messaging and prepare to put effort into it. Do not say “Hey how are you?” or “Hey how about dinner?”. Why would she want dinner with you? Unless she is starving, she wouldn’t want to go eat with someone she knows nothing about. LOL. You need to say something that would make her interested to hear more. Here are some examples of messages I replied to. Say that you read her profile and that it is very attractive to you. That you believe that you have what she is looking for. That you would love to invite her for a drink. Ask what she is looking for in a young man. Write 4-5 sentences. Visit their profile every day. Send at least three messages to the same cougar in one week. For the last one, say that you are sorry to pester her again, but you just really want to hear from her, you are so intrigued. We, older women, are suckers for compliments, so play this card (be subtle though, don’t overdo it)!
6. Do not challenge your cougar or make it look like she needs to work to get you. You can challenge her later, but not at this stage. Understand this: she is much older than you, this ALREADY puts her in a vulnerable position. Plus, there are dozens of other guys who are messaging her, why would a cougar want to make it hard on herself? Remember this: it is much harder to get an interview than a job offer. And your task at this stage is exactly that: “to get an interview”. Get your interview first; then get a job offer. You can always turn it down.
7. Once your cougar replied to you, make yourself stand out from the crowd. The best way to do that is to ask questions.  Ask her what she wants from a young man, what would make her pleased. Signal to her that you would want to fulfill her needs. Show her that you are interested in getting to know her as a person. I have a list of 10 questions that I send out to my young prospects. You can come up with your own list. You don’t have to send them as a list, of course, but having a list will help you ask the right questions. Most young guys don’t ask many questions; they behave rather helplessly and expect a cougar to do all the “discovery” work. So to stand out from the crowd, take the wheel and start driving.
8. Keep your finger on the pulse. Stay close to your prey. Once she replied to you – and one of the most difficult things in this game is to actually get cougars to reply to you – so once she does, then you need to stay on top of it. Reply to all her messages and emails within an hour! Even if she takes longer to reply to you. This does not undermine your dignity or makes you look desperate. What it does is signals to your cougar that you will be available to her later on and that you will not be acting like a teenager. Most guys in their early twenties act like ones. They are eager at first but then disappear without a warning, then re-appear again, etc. We, cougars, experience this once or twice and after that – we simply don’t deal with very young guys. So don’t act like a teenager even if you are one. At this very beginning, you need to capture as much of her attention as you can. So correspond accordingly.
9. Be respectful and flirt. Pretend there is no age difference. The assumption is that you are into older women, and if this is the case, then why would you treat a cougar differently than any other woman? The age difference will surface, of course, this topic will come up, but it should not come from you. Do NOT ask her how old she is. If she wants to, she will tell you. You are not looking to marry, so why do you care how old she is?
10. Do not ask for her picture if she has not posted one. If you are dying to ask for it, do it after you’ve exchanged a couple of emails and do it very politely. I had one young guy write to me in the FIRST email “Hi, I am such and such. Can you describe what you look like?” – and nothing else! Tell me, would you like it if someone wrote an email to you like that? Would you think it respectful? If she refuses to send you a pic, do not insist. Say that you understand. The reason I never send my picture out to anyone is because boys are boys. They forward it to their friends; some boys are mean, they can get angry and might post your picture somewhere online with silly comments. Of course, you are nice and you won’t do such a thing, but your cougar does not have a guarantee on this.
11. After you got a reply, correspond for a day or two and then ask your cougar on a date. You can do it even faster, but most cougars would want to see some “commitment” first. Because sometimes you get guys asking you “what would it take to get you out of the house and under the sheets?” and when they understand that it won’t be tonight, they simply disappear. And then you see them hanging out on the cougar website for months…not getting any! It is much wiser to spend some effort on ONE cougar who has already replied to you than waste hours surfing numerous profiles and sending endless messages that almost never get answered. So ideally, you should ask her what part of town she lives in and then find a bar or a restaurant in that area. I like to meet in hotel lounges, because they are not crowded and locals don’t go there. Do not meet in a coffee shop. You won’t be able to talk freely and will not have a chance to start getting physical.
12. Make your first date with a cougar a typical date. Do not signal to your cougar that you don’t want to be seen with her in public places. If you are into cougars, then why are you afraid to be seen with one? Besides, sitting with an older woman does not mean anything. You can be colleagues, relatives, whatever! But if you signal to her that you are conscious about being seen with her in a public place, she might think that you simply can’t get laid with younger women and this is the main reason for you to look for older women. Do you think this will make her interested or excited about you? Dress nicely, shave. Treat your first date as a job interview. There is only one chance to make the first impression, so don’t blow it.
13. Do not reschedule your meetings unless there is something very important that you absolutely have to. At the beginning, especially for the first two weeks, do not reschedule at all and meet at least once a week. If she wants to meet more, meet more. Later on, you can gradually put the brakes on if you want to. If you do have to reschedule, take care to explain why, write a few good sentences, and apologize twice. Better call in person. Remember, with women, you need to repeat apologies a couple of times. This is what we, women, do to each other too. Especially in sensitive areas. Rescheduling is one of them. As a cougar, I can tell you, it is such a turn off when the guy reschedules. If you knew how much you are actually losing by making your cougar feel disappointed, you would NOT do it. Keeping your cougar excited about you brings you numerous benefits. You only win as a result, so don’t be foolish.
14. For the first date with a cougar, prepare a few topics to entertain her. She is older than you, she has more experience in life, she probably knows more, so you need to be somehow interesting to her. So take her to places where older men won’t. Be fun, prepare some jokes in advance, tell some stories, talk about your athletic achievements (yes, this is when talking about sports is good, because to us, cougars, it means “stamina and no belly fat”). Let your youth shine. Be talkative. I had guys come and just sit there and not say anything after the first few greeting phrases. Huh? Do you want me to entertain you? I certainly can, but you should at least participate! Make sure that it is her who ends the date, even if you are not interested. Think like a sales person. You never know what might happen in the future. Smart people are never rude in any encounters, there is no benefit but losses are possible. But if you ARE interested, however, then towards the end of the date you MUST get physical. Touch her hand, draw her towards yourself, put your arm behind her back as you walk her to her car, look at her, look her in the eyes longer and do not look away. Kiss her. If she resists a little, even better! If she really resists, then ask why. Do not just retreat like a punished puppy. Ask why. Try to make out, even a little bit. This is key. You must have some physical contact by the end of the first date.
15. Send a sweet follow up note to your cougar a few hours after your first date. The next day is the latest. Do this even if you are not really interested. Just say something polite in this case. But if you liked her, then this is your opportunity to advance. Tell her that you were surprised to find how attractive she is. Say that you really liked your meeting, especially the last few minutes (provided you did initiate physical contact, which you must). Mention that you would like to get together again sometime soon.
16. On the next day after your first date, write to her again and invite her to chat with you online. Say you’d really like to talk to her more. And then follow the instructions in my tutorial on how to seduce a cougar using the power of sex chat. If you used the sex chat properly, I’d be really surprised if you don’t have sex the next time you meet, which should be your second date, which should be a week after your first date or sooner. At the very least, you are guaranteed to have a heavy-duty make-out session and maybe a blow job. But I suggest you take things further. Remember, you being horny is what your cougar likes about you the most, so don’t be shy, take things further. Just don’t forget condoms. I had a situation when we didn’t have sex because none of us had condoms, but then later, I already changed my mind. So come prepared and seal the deal.
17. After you’ve had a make-out session or some noticeable physical contact with a cougar and especially after sex, be sure to send another nice note. Or better call. This is a must. We, cougars, were born and raised in different times. You will insult her if you don’t do it. In life, there is no benefit in insulting anyone whereas losses are possible. Being rude or mean for no good reason is something only silly people do. And they usually don’t get far in life, be it their career or anything else. So don’t be foolish, send a nice note, even if you don’t want to continue. Your cougar will understand it. So he is not interested, fair enough, but he was nice, he sent a note and behaved politely. Three months later, if you change your mind, this cougar might talk to you. Or you might become pals and she will help you with advice, like I do for several young guys with whom we found no chemistry in person. There are not many things more useful and beneficial for a young man than talking to cougars. About sex, about women, about men, about himself, about everything. Guidance from a sympathetic and frank cougar can have a tremendously positive effect on your life, and smart guys understand that.
18. After you’ve had sex with your cougar, your objective at the next stage is to not get dropped. And luckily with cougars, this is easy. Simply be a nice guy. Don’t pretend or try too hard. Just be respectful, polite and nice. Even if all you want is a FWB or fuck-buddy arrangement, you should keep your cougar excited about sleeping with you. For women, what goes on outside the bedroom is part of sex. So be sure to keep things flirty and sweet, even if you have to do it artificially. It is not difficult and does not cost you anything. Send a short email of the type of “how is my sexy cougar doing today?” once or twice a day. After you’ve had sex, send an email saying that “I am getting so horny thinking about your pussy”. Invite her to see a movie once a month and pay for the tickets! When you come over to her place, bring flowers once a month. That’s all it takes to keep a cougar excited about sleeping with you. Remember, she is busy with her life, with her kids, her work. All she wants from you is a pleasant and sweet time and some excitement. So give it to her, it is so easy!
19. Demonstrate how horny you are. Be audacious. What do you think makes cougars want young men? Sex yes, but older men can be good in bed too and more skillful than young men. What makes a real difference is that older men don’t get THAT horny and older men are rarely audacious. They don’t act horny, they don’t talk horny. LOL. They are composed; they can wait; they are not eager; they give you space. What I enjoy the most about young guys is precisely the opposite of all this. What cougars enjoy the most with young males is their audaciousness (and stamina, of course!) I love it when they write to me “I can’t wait to meet you. I wish Monday was tomorrow”; “I can’t wait to put my hands on your sexy body”; “How often would you like to have sex? I am horny all the time, I can have sex 4-5 times a day”. Understand: this is something we, cougars, might have heard 15 years ago or even more! And we miss it. It makes us feel young again. It makes us feel desirable. It ignites us. So give this to your target cougar and she will be tamed in no time.
20. If you want your cougar to be with you for a few months, ask for affection early on. Yes, you read it right. Affection. This is key for dealing with any woman, but with cougars especially. By asking for affection you are actually “taming” a woman, you are NOT losing your dignity or power or giving the woman control over you. It works out in the opposite way. Asking for affection does NOT mean you are asking for a relationship, love, drama or anything scary. Asking for affection signals to your cougar that you are not going to treat her like she is your booty call as soon as you’ve had sex; that your “encounters” will be pleasant and enjoyable and that she will have no unpleasant things to deal with. When you signal to your cougar that you want affection, she would open up to you and will be happy to give it to you in the form of SEX and PAMPERING. With blow jobs, back rubs, massages, nice dinners, etc.etc. Practice this rule and then you’ll know what I mean. This strategy is like sex, you’ll fully understand what benefits it brings only after you’ve tried it. My advice to you: if you want to be successful with women, ask for affection. Directly and indirectly.
21. Contrary to what you may hear elsewhere, do not lie to your cougar if you want to keep her for an extensive period of time. She has no illusions about the nature of your “relationship”. So she will appreciate you being honest. And you will be rewarded for this. It is much easier this way for both parties. No one’s ego gets hurt if everyone knows where everyone stands. Just don’t make it disrespectful or too vulgar and don’t start talking to her about other women unless she presses you herself. If she presses you, then do tell. Trust me, she will not dump you because of this (she might get a little edgy at first, but she will not dump you). But she WILL dump you if she feels used or disrespected. But if she sees that you treat her with decency, she will be okay with you sleeping with other women, especially if you are good in bed (learn how to be an amazing lover by reading this tutorial) and if you keep things “exciting” outside the bedroom (as in #17 & 18 above). A little management, that’s all it takes.