Clients who use escorts are NOT perverts or seedy!

It gets my goat how judgemental people are of a profession they know nothing about. Both men and women who don’t know anything about the escort profession have this perception of escorts and the escort business and of people who use escorts. That the escorts must be scrabbling round to make a living for some reason, drugs habit or whatever and the clients are perverted men who take advantage of vulnerable women and girls. (I think most clients will tell you the majority of escorts are anything but vulnerable).

I’m here to tell you that is NOT the case. As a post graduate educated woman, who runs her own successful business full time and works as an escort part time to increase my dispensable income but also because I enjoy meeting new people and enjoy the physical aspect I can happily say that my clients are not perverts or desperate. In fact they are polite, professional, men from a variety of careers and backgrounds who are just looking for company of a woman who actually wants to be with them and enjoys spending time, attention and affection on them and vice versa.

In fact every time I meet either one of my regular clients or a new one for the first time it amazes me that they don’t have a queue of women lining up for them and that they choose to spend time and money on me. Not only are my clients good talkers and listeners, but they are fantastic in bed and just want to please, what’s not to like? I understand that I am a no strings uncomplicated relationship that won’t get out of hand and that suits them, as it suits me.

As women, we are the first ones to start moaning if our partners don’t put in enough “I love you” hugs, and compliments, yet how often do we consider how they feel when you have said for the 100th time in a month NO to sex. The women knock back their partners, “not tonight honey” on such a regular basis that it is bound to have an effect on his confidence and to rebuild it and feel that he is still desirable he seeks confirmation from me, and I, am happy to confirm my clients are all lovely, fantastic, attractive men that have a lot to offer this world, in and out of bed. My clients just want someone who says and means “tonight? yes please, can’t wait, can’t think of anything better than a glass of wine, a natter on the sofa and some great action with you!”.

Some of my clients are single and just want to have some fun and good company, some are married, but by seeing me it is a safe outlet for them to be able to feel appreciated and wanted without any risk to the family and partner that they do love immensely and they would never want to lose but who just doesn’t tick that one little box. Is it better that my clients are in and stay in a loving relationship which just has a minor flaw, or that they leave and ruin a very happy relationship in the pursuit of someone who ticks all the boxes? Lets be honest, no one ticks all the boxes for more than about 6 months, after that the ticks start fading, but other ticks get stronger.

When I tell people what I do (not very often) their first reaction is shock, but when you actually explain that not only do I make sure the client is happy but I too am happy and I come away saying to my escort buddy (security phone call) “that was a great night, I’d like to meet him again”, they realise that its not the dirty, filthy secret that they imagine.

Don’t get me wrong, there is a lot wrong with the sex trade, from underage, trafficking, drugs etc, but that is a bigger issue and you shouldn’t tar everyone with the same brush, just as there are rogue lawyers, accountants, MP’s, and builders, you don’t assume just because you saw some plumber from “rogue traders” ripping off a customer that all plumbers are like that.

As with most discrimination and stereotyping and skewed thinking, it stems from a lack of knowledge, education and experience, so perhaps we should think about being a bit more open about sex, our sexual needs and sexuality, and we could all learn something from it. Perhaps you’re reading this worrying your husband is seeing an escort, think about it, would it be all that bad? You don’t want sex with him anyway so where’s the harm? I’m happy to take one for the girls and it keeps him off your back (pardon the pun) so everyone is happy. Perhaps you do want to rekindle the sexual relationship with your partner, I can help there too (but that is for another blog).